Sorry...the second pic didn't get approved. Not sure why..
Hello, i'm quite new to all this so I just thought i'd have a look who's out there. Get in touch, Phi..
By saying that BS he completely negated your concerns and hurt. His communication actually told you, "your feelings, impressions and wants are not as important as mine. I don't see what was so bad, but if you're going to dump me, let me massage your fantasy vision of me a little. There, that's better now, isn't it? OK, now, come make me feel special for my birthday in front of my friends! Even though you don't want to, and have a ton on your plate!".
You and she (from what you've written) sound as if you are complete polar-opposite women. You took a week of your time to nurse him back to health; she's spent 6+ months coming and going as she pleases, leaving her child/ren behind TO do so. IF he's taken her back and IF they go off to live happily-ever-after, then that is the type of woman he prefers: someone is self-centered, self-involved, and lives to please only herself..
While leaving the house was the correct reaction, or at the very least a good call by your side, kissing that other guy was NOT. And the fact that you keep trying to justify your "reaction" shows you do NOT take responsibility..