I'm trying to understand her interests so I can use them to my advantage but she rarely talks unless she really wants to. It's one of those 50/50 type of deals, where one time she and I will have an awesome conversation and others where we talk for 2 minutes and everything goes quiet. I really feel like a newbie at this and since I'm getting out of my shell of misanthropia, I'd like some advice about this situation..
The more I look at it it was an ego trip for him. He used both of us. He had his cake and frosting. It hurts a lot but I'll get past it. While we were apart I had several dates, so no worries there. Just so mad that he charmed me back into his world, looking back so many things I overlooked. She can have him..
I think the key is that ADMIN looks at the flags and responds accordingly..which he will :).
Perhaps it was her my abcense from her life, or my blind trust, she started going out with few friends and having drinks. She even slept with couple of them. I got to know incidently, and all this have been going on for almost 3 months now. When i confronted her, she told me tat she never felt my love for her, tat would make her more sad, she would go for drinks and would lost control after tat. But she only had sex with one fren, and tat too when she was drunk. On the day that she confessed, we both cried like babies. She admiited her fault, and i vowed to forget it forever and move on. I felt so much at loss. Yet i couldnt blame her also, as it was my cold (but taking things slow) behaviour tat alienated her. Since tat day, im being overly possesive of her. I have been delaying my projects, work and other things just to give her most of my time, bring her out for dinners, movies. I never been with her during the whole year since i have been with her in few weeks. But whatever i do, i cant get rid of the illusions of her having sex with another man..
its all about the left.
He is a Psychology major, an emotional/ sensitive person, an empath, a deep thinker and enjoys intellectually and emotionally stimulating conversations. I am not as vulnerable and open about my feelings as he is (I have told him this) but within the past year he has told me that he has sensed a change in me and said that the quality of our communication is not the same as it used to be. He has expressed his desire multiple times throughout last year to understand me on a deeper level and for me to be vulnerable, open up to him and express to him when I need him (he feels that I am withdrawing from him and I don’t need him). I have reassured him that our friendship means a lot to me, I don’t readily express a “need” or open up as easily or on the same level as him and also that I feel as though our communication styles and expectations are a bit different..