This is my first post on here and not really a happy one..
Originally Posted by sadintexas.
I want to stay with her, but I'm wondering if it may just be easier for everyone to just cut it off. I'm not eager to do this, because I'm enamored with her and feel unbelievably elated when we're together, and would probably be filled with regret..
Well, that was early high school. I grew into myself and started branching out more. I ended up 'talking' with someone who she had a small crush on THREE YEARS before this time. By crush, I mean we all went miniature golfing once and then he moved away and she never spoke of him again. Well, he moved back and started working at the same place she worked. She told me every day how much she hated him and how annoying he was, but the second he and I run into each other and he asks me out, she flips her ****. Tells me that "You knew I was in love with him!" and basically didn't talk to me for months. Hilarious considering how she treated me years before. Moral of the story is that these types of attention obsessed people usually end up being absolutely insane- she has went off the deep end several times and has taken up some crazy religions in the past that she abandons after so long and is a heavy drug user. So yeah, I'd kind of stop hanging out with this girl just from past experience. They tend to be nut jobs..
I've been listening to a lot of early Public Image Limited and Sonic Youth. That helps with my lonliness!.
Badonka donk :P.
not bad for a one armed chick.
How could I stop hurting?.
many interesting comments... I can't explain it but I find her very attractive :).
OMG! That's actually quite funny to see that kind of a mistake on a freakin' clock! :) (Also, should I feel bad for commenting on a stupid clock instead of the girl?:).
Point is, to me, it almost seems like he was in a basic relationship like any one of us could be in. It doesn't seem like a traditional marriage in which when a divorce happens, people are emotionally scarred and scared about getting back out there, etc. My co-worker mentioned "Oh, that marriage was over long before she left". Who knows?.
Marriage will become obsolete......
Honestly, I felt so stupid and disappointed in his reaction. He looked at me so dumbfounded and just said, "you don't love me" he went on to say "this is just the wrong situation to say that because we are arguing" and to my disappointed there was no "I love you" said back..
Girl also wonders if he was just looking for sex in the first place, and lost interest when she didn't deliver. Ugh..
I don't want to believe that my only course of action is to confront him, try to get him to explain why he still is so hell bent on staying connected to her when although I'm sure there were good memories to reflect on fondly, there is the fact that it was not the healthiest of pairings plus the fact that he himself has said that she's really not that nice of a person nor a good friend..
No 2 people can agree on everything 100% of the time. However, that does not mean not fighting is unhealthy. It is only unhealthy if one or both people just ignore problems and let resentment fester because they are afraid of confrontation or because they don't know how to communicate so their frustrations come out in passive aggressive ways. What you are doing in your relationship, i.e. address disagreements in a respectful way until the issue is resolved, actually sounds pretty ideal..